When you found out you were pregnant you probably started to plan for your baby’s birth. When you’re told that your baby has died, all your hopes and dreams are crushed. Some people are shocked to learn that they will have to deliver their baby. This can be a very difficult and confusing time for expectant parents.
Everyone responds differently. You may feel flooded with emotion, feel numb or in shock, or somewhere in between. It will take time to come to understand what is happening.
Your healthcare team is here to guide you. They can help you decide on the next steps and provide you with what you want and need during this time. They can provide you support, help you find out about resources, and answer any questions you have. Your
physical and
emotional health are important and your healthcare team can help you get the information you need.
In addition to the doctors and nurses, your healthcare team can include a social worker, spiritual care advisor, and Indigenous hospital liaison. Let your healthcare provider know if you would like to talk to any of these team members.
You may also wish to see a leader from your cultural or spiritual community. Spiritual care staff can help arrange any practices, rituals, or connections with community leaders you might need or want. You or your family may find it helpful to visit a hospital chapel or a sacred space.
When you are first told that your baby has died, you may see your loss as just something that is happening to your body. You may not develop feelings of loss until later. That’s OK. It’s never too late to
explore your grief,
get support, or
find ways to remember your baby. There are no right or wrong questions or decisions.
